It’s Time to Take That Betaal Off Your Back 💭

You remember the story of King Vikram carrying Betaal on his back, no matter what he did, the ghost clung tighter?

That, my dear moms, is exactly what mother’s guilt feels like.

You could be doing everything right, showing up at work, helping with homework, remembering everyone’s vitamins and yet, at the end of the day, there’s that whisper:

“Did I spend enough time with them?”

“Maybe I shouldn’t have lost my patience.”

“I could’ve cooked instead of ordering out.”

It’s as if no matter how much love you pour, it never feels enough.

But let me remind you guilt isn’t proof of love. Your presence, your care, your efforts already are.

Sometimes it’s okay if your child goes to bed after watching one extra cartoon because you needed ten quiet minutes. It’s okay if you skipped the PTA meeting because your mind needed a breather. It’s okay if you want to meet your friends, go for a solo drive, or sit in silence without anyone calling out “Mumma!” every two minutes.

Because when you take care of yourself, you refill the cup your family drinks from every single day.

You’ve been the emotional anchor, the multitasker, the midnight nurse, and the referee of sibling wars. But who takes care of you when you’re running on empty?

Here’s the truth, your children don’t need a perfect mother. They need a mother who smiles from her heart, who laughs easily, who has dreams beyond their school timetables.

So maybe today, choose to put the Betaal down.

Have your chai while it’s still hot.

Take that walk alone.

Book that spa, that course that you are willing to join, that quiet corner in your favourite café.

You deserve to live a little for yourself, not out of guilt, but out of love,  the same love you so effortlessly give everyone else.

Because one day, when your child grows up and feels overwhelmed by life, they’ll remember, “My mamma didn’t just survive motherhood, she lived it fully.”

And that dear Moms, is the best legacy you can leave behind.

✨ Connect with Vibrant Aura by Sejal, a counsellor and mother of a teenager.🌼 

Psychologist Vs Psychiatrist

When seeking mental health support, many people wonder about the difference between a psychiatrist and a psychologist. While both are trained professionals who work to improve emotional and psychological well-being, their qualifications, approaches, and roles differ significantly.

🩺 Psychiatrist (MD or DO)

Psychiatrists are medical doctors who specialize in the diagnosis, treatment, and prevention of mental health disorders. Their medical background allows them to understand the biological and neurological aspects of mental illness. One of their key roles is managing medications, they can prescribe psychiatric drugs and monitor their effects. Psychiatrists often treat more severe mental health conditions such as schizophrenia, bipolar disorder, or major depression, sometimes combining medication with other therapeutic interventions. They usually work in hospitals, clinics, or private practices.

🧠 Psychologist (Ph.D. or Psy.D.)

Psychologists are experts in human behavior, thought patterns, and emotional processes. They hold a doctoral degree in psychology but are not medical doctors. As such, they do not prescribe medications in most countries. Instead, psychologists focus on psychotherapy, counseling, behavioral interventions, and psychological assessments. Their work often involves helping individuals manage stress, anxiety, relationship challenges, trauma, and other emotional concerns. Psychologists work in a variety of settings — including private practices, schools, hospitals, community centers, and research institutions.

Key Differences at a Glance

1. Educational Background

Psychiatrists complete medical school (MBBS or equivalent) and a residency in psychiatry. Psychologists complete a doctoral program (Ph.D. or Psy.D.) in psychology, which involves years of study, research, and clinical training.

2. Medication Prescription

Psychiatrists can prescribe and adjust psychiatric medications, while psychologists focus on non-pharmacological interventions like therapy and behavior modification.

3. Approach to Treatment

Psychiatrists typically use a medical model, emphasizing brain chemistry and biological causes. Psychologists use a psychological model, emphasizing emotional, cognitive, and behavioral patterns.

4. Areas of Focus

Psychiatrists often treat complex or severe mental illnesses, especially those that require medical management. Psychologists commonly work with individuals struggling with emotional regulation, life stressors, and behavioral challenges.

Final Thoughts

While the roles of psychiatrists and psychologists differ, they often collaborate to provide comprehensive mental health care. For example, a person may see a psychiatrist for medication and a psychologist for regular therapy sessions.

Choosing the right professional depends on your specific needs,  whether it’s managing medication, talking through emotional issues, or both.

Mental health is not one-size-fits-all, and understanding these differences is the first step in seeking the right support.

Not sure where to begin?

Connect with Vibrant Aura by Sejal for a free consultation call 📞 and take your first step toward healing.

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🌿 5 Simple Hacks for Mindful Eating

We often rush through meals like they’re just another task. But eating mindfully isn’t about being slow or strict, it’s about being present. Even one small shift can change how your body feels and how your mind rests.

Here’s how to begin, gently:

🍽️ 1. Pause

Before you take the first bite, look at your food.

Then look at the person who made it, your mom, your dad, a friend, a cook, or even yourself.

After that first bite, pause for a moment.

Say something simple and real, like “Mmm, this is so good” or “Tastes yummy, I love this.”

It’s these little words that turn a meal into a moment.

👀 2. Bring the food to you

Posture matters. Sit back, relax your shoulders, and bring your food closer to you instead of bending into the plate.

Let your senses join in, notice how it smells, feels, and tastes.

You don’t have to do this for the whole meal, just start with the first few bites and be present with them.

📵 3. Put the phone away

No multitasking, no scrolling. Just eat.

Let your body feel what it’s doing.

You’ll notice you get fuller faster, enjoy more, and feel less drained after.

Peace and presence digest better than noise and distraction.

🧍‍♀️ 4. Listen to your body

Halfway through, check in: “Do I really want more?” or “Am I just finishing it because it’s there?”

Your body usually knows before your plate does. Trust that signal.

🚶‍♂️ 5. Shatpavli (Digestive stroll)

After your meal, don’t crash on the couch.

Take a short walk, around the house, the compound, or even just a few steps at home.

It’s not about fitness. It’s about digestion, reflection, and transition.

A quiet shatpavli helps your body and mind settle into “done” mode.

You don’t need to follow all 5.

Just pick one and let it become your pause.

Because even the simplest meals deserve your full presence, and so do you. ✨

Also read about, https://thevibrantaura.in/index.php/2024/03/26/5-ways-to-enhance-communication-skills

Client’s Success Story

‘Case of Illness Anxiety Disorder’

When Amar (name changed) first reached out, he wasn’t seeking therapy in the traditional sense. He was searching for answers.

In his early thirties, Amar came across as composed and rational. But beneath his calm tone was a persistent fear.

“I’ve done all the tests,” he said during our first call. “But something still feels wrong. No one can tell me what it is.”

He had already consulted several specialists, cardiologists, gastroenterologists, and had undergone bloodwork, ECGs, and even an endoscopy. Aside from a diagnosed H. Pylori infection, all reports came back normal. Yet, his anxiety only intensified.

Every bodily sensation, chest tightness, throat dryness, digestive changes, triggered catastrophic thoughts: 

What if something’s been missed? 

What if it’s serious? 

Amar wasn’t just reacting to symptoms; he was trapped in a cycle of hypervigilance and fear.

The onset of these worries could be traced back to January 2024. While working out, he noticed a dry throat and chest discomfort, minor at first, but after Googling and self-checking, it spiraled into heart-related fears. Frequent travel and irregular meals worsened his digestion, further reinforcing his belief that something was deeply wrong.

Despite repeated reassurances from doctors, Amar couldn’t shake the dread. The tipping point came after a panic episode in June, when a doctor suggested, “This might be anxiety.”

That idea opened a door.

He came to therapy cautiously, not convinced, but curious. We didn’t rush to label his fear as “just anxiety.” Instead, we acknowledged the real distress he felt, while introducing the idea that maybe it wasn’t his body failing, but his mind overprotecting.

Together, we worked to interrupt the cycle that sustains Illness Anxiety Disorder:

Symptom → Fear → Reassurance → Brief relief → Symptom-checking → Renewed fear

Through cognitive reframing, grounding techniques, behavioral experiments, and psychoeducation, Amar slowly began to shift. The sensations didn’t vanish, but they no longer ruled his day. He started to separate his body’s messages from his mind’s catastrophic interpretations.

In one session, he shared,

“I still get scared sometimes… but now I know it’s a thought, not a fact.”

That was a turning point. Not the end of anxiety, but the beginning of insight.

Today, Amar still pays attention to his health, but not obsessively. He’s learned to live with uncertainty, to listen to his body without fearing it.

“Maybe I’ll never feel 100% sure,” he reflected in a closing session, “But that’s okay. I don’t need to live in fear to stay safe anymore.”

At Vibrant Aura, we offer a space where fears are heard without judgment, and healing unfolds with compassion and care,  just like it did for this client.

Also read about- https://thevibrantaura.in/index.php/2024/03/01/three-essential-areas-to-reset-and-calm-anxiety/

How Much Control Do You Truly Have Over Your Life?

Have you ever thought about who’s really in control of your life, you, or everything happening around you?

The Rotter’s Locus of Control Survey is a simple way to find out. It gives you a glimpse into how you view the world, and what might be shaping your decisions without you even realizing it.

For example, here’s a sample question from the survey:

“When you get what you want, is it usually because you worked hard for it, or because you were lucky?”

Interesting to think about, right?

The best part is that your results are for your eyes only. Once you complete the survey (link below), your results will be sent straight to your email. No one else, not even us can see them.

Take a few minutes for yourself. You might be surprised by what you learn.

https://thevibrantaura.in/ninja-forms/117egc

Also read about, https://thevibrantaura.in/index.php/2024/10/01/the-30-days-gratitude-challenge/ and take the challenge.

Shielding Yourself from Negative Emotions

Have you ever walked into a room and immediately felt drained, even though nothing was said? Or maybe a friend’s constant complaining leaves you feeling low? Negative emotions whether from people, social media, or the environment, can be contagious. But the good news is, you don’t have to absorb them.

In a world where emotional energy is constantly exchanged, learning to protect your inner peace is a valuable skill. Here’s how you can navigate negativity without letting it consume you.

1. Recognize What’s Yours and What’s Not

Not every emotion you feel is yours. Sometimes, you’re just picking up on others’ stress, anger, or sadness. The next time you sense negativity, pause and ask yourself:

• “Was I feeling this way before?”

• “Is this emotion truly mine, or am I absorbing someone else’s energy?”

If it’s not yours, visualize it passing through you instead of settling within.

2. Set Emotional Boundaries

You wouldn’t let someone walk into your home and dump their garbage inside, so why let them do that with negativity? Protect your mental space by-

•Limiting time with people who constantly complain or criticize.

• Saying “I understand” instead of engaging deeply in their negativity.

• Learning to say no without guilt.

3. Choose Your Responses Wisely

Negativity thrives on reaction. If someone is venting, gossiping, or being pessimistic, you have three choices:

  1. Engage – which drains you.
  2. Ignore – which might escalate things.
  3. Detach and redirect – which protects your peace.

A simple, calm response like “That sounds tough, but I hope things work out” can acknowledge the other person without fueling negativity.

4. Practice Mindful Detachment

You can be compassionate without absorbing others’ struggles. Imagine a protective bubble around you that filters out negativity but allows positive connections. Techniques like:

These small shifts keep you from getting emotionally entangled.

5. Surround Yourself with Positivity

Just like negativity spreads, so does positivity. Balance out negative exposure by:

The more you feed your mind with positivity, the less room negativity has to settle in.

Also read about – https://thevibrantaura.in/index.php/2023/09/06/social-media-and-mental-health/