It’s Time to Take That Betaal Off Your Back 💭

You remember the story of King Vikram carrying Betaal on his back, no matter what he did, the ghost clung tighter?

That, my dear moms, is exactly what mother’s guilt feels like.

You could be doing everything right, showing up at work, helping with homework, remembering everyone’s vitamins and yet, at the end of the day, there’s that whisper:

“Did I spend enough time with them?”

“Maybe I shouldn’t have lost my patience.”

“I could’ve cooked instead of ordering out.”

It’s as if no matter how much love you pour, it never feels enough.

But let me remind you guilt isn’t proof of love. Your presence, your care, your efforts already are.

Sometimes it’s okay if your child goes to bed after watching one extra cartoon because you needed ten quiet minutes. It’s okay if you skipped the PTA meeting because your mind needed a breather. It’s okay if you want to meet your friends, go for a solo drive, or sit in silence without anyone calling out “Mumma!” every two minutes.

Because when you take care of yourself, you refill the cup your family drinks from every single day.

You’ve been the emotional anchor, the multitasker, the midnight nurse, and the referee of sibling wars. But who takes care of you when you’re running on empty?

Here’s the truth, your children don’t need a perfect mother. They need a mother who smiles from her heart, who laughs easily, who has dreams beyond their school timetables.

So maybe today, choose to put the Betaal down.

Have your chai while it’s still hot.

Take that walk alone.

Book that spa, that course that you are willing to join, that quiet corner in your favourite café.

You deserve to live a little for yourself, not out of guilt, but out of love,  the same love you so effortlessly give everyone else.

Because one day, when your child grows up and feels overwhelmed by life, they’ll remember, “My mamma didn’t just survive motherhood, she lived it fully.”

And that dear Moms, is the best legacy you can leave behind.

✨ Connect with Vibrant Aura by Sejal, a counsellor and mother of a teenager.🌼 

Psychologist Vs Psychiatrist

When seeking mental health support, many people wonder about the difference between a psychiatrist and a psychologist. While both are trained professionals who work to improve emotional and psychological well-being, their qualifications, approaches, and roles differ significantly.

🩺 Psychiatrist (MD or DO)

Psychiatrists are medical doctors who specialize in the diagnosis, treatment, and prevention of mental health disorders. Their medical background allows them to understand the biological and neurological aspects of mental illness. One of their key roles is managing medications, they can prescribe psychiatric drugs and monitor their effects. Psychiatrists often treat more severe mental health conditions such as schizophrenia, bipolar disorder, or major depression, sometimes combining medication with other therapeutic interventions. They usually work in hospitals, clinics, or private practices.

🧠 Psychologist (Ph.D. or Psy.D.)

Psychologists are experts in human behavior, thought patterns, and emotional processes. They hold a doctoral degree in psychology but are not medical doctors. As such, they do not prescribe medications in most countries. Instead, psychologists focus on psychotherapy, counseling, behavioral interventions, and psychological assessments. Their work often involves helping individuals manage stress, anxiety, relationship challenges, trauma, and other emotional concerns. Psychologists work in a variety of settings — including private practices, schools, hospitals, community centers, and research institutions.

Key Differences at a Glance

1. Educational Background

Psychiatrists complete medical school (MBBS or equivalent) and a residency in psychiatry. Psychologists complete a doctoral program (Ph.D. or Psy.D.) in psychology, which involves years of study, research, and clinical training.

2. Medication Prescription

Psychiatrists can prescribe and adjust psychiatric medications, while psychologists focus on non-pharmacological interventions like therapy and behavior modification.

3. Approach to Treatment

Psychiatrists typically use a medical model, emphasizing brain chemistry and biological causes. Psychologists use a psychological model, emphasizing emotional, cognitive, and behavioral patterns.

4. Areas of Focus

Psychiatrists often treat complex or severe mental illnesses, especially those that require medical management. Psychologists commonly work with individuals struggling with emotional regulation, life stressors, and behavioral challenges.

Final Thoughts

While the roles of psychiatrists and psychologists differ, they often collaborate to provide comprehensive mental health care. For example, a person may see a psychiatrist for medication and a psychologist for regular therapy sessions.

Choosing the right professional depends on your specific needs,  whether it’s managing medication, talking through emotional issues, or both.

Mental health is not one-size-fits-all, and understanding these differences is the first step in seeking the right support.

Not sure where to begin?

Connect with Vibrant Aura by Sejal for a free consultation call 📞 and take your first step toward healing.

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🌿 5 Simple Hacks for Mindful Eating

We often rush through meals like they’re just another task. But eating mindfully isn’t about being slow or strict, it’s about being present. Even one small shift can change how your body feels and how your mind rests.

Here’s how to begin, gently:

🍽️ 1. Pause

Before you take the first bite, look at your food.

Then look at the person who made it, your mom, your dad, a friend, a cook, or even yourself.

After that first bite, pause for a moment.

Say something simple and real, like “Mmm, this is so good” or “Tastes yummy, I love this.”

It’s these little words that turn a meal into a moment.

👀 2. Bring the food to you

Posture matters. Sit back, relax your shoulders, and bring your food closer to you instead of bending into the plate.

Let your senses join in, notice how it smells, feels, and tastes.

You don’t have to do this for the whole meal, just start with the first few bites and be present with them.

📵 3. Put the phone away

No multitasking, no scrolling. Just eat.

Let your body feel what it’s doing.

You’ll notice you get fuller faster, enjoy more, and feel less drained after.

Peace and presence digest better than noise and distraction.

🧍‍♀️ 4. Listen to your body

Halfway through, check in: “Do I really want more?” or “Am I just finishing it because it’s there?”

Your body usually knows before your plate does. Trust that signal.

🚶‍♂️ 5. Shatpavli (Digestive stroll)

After your meal, don’t crash on the couch.

Take a short walk, around the house, the compound, or even just a few steps at home.

It’s not about fitness. It’s about digestion, reflection, and transition.

A quiet shatpavli helps your body and mind settle into “done” mode.

You don’t need to follow all 5.

Just pick one and let it become your pause.

Because even the simplest meals deserve your full presence, and so do you. ✨

Also read about, https://thevibrantaura.in/index.php/2024/03/26/5-ways-to-enhance-communication-skills

Client’s Success Story

‘Case of Illness Anxiety Disorder’

When Amar (name changed) first reached out, he wasn’t seeking therapy in the traditional sense. He was searching for answers.

In his early thirties, Amar came across as composed and rational. But beneath his calm tone was a persistent fear.

“I’ve done all the tests,” he said during our first call. “But something still feels wrong. No one can tell me what it is.”

He had already consulted several specialists, cardiologists, gastroenterologists, and had undergone bloodwork, ECGs, and even an endoscopy. Aside from a diagnosed H. Pylori infection, all reports came back normal. Yet, his anxiety only intensified.

Every bodily sensation, chest tightness, throat dryness, digestive changes, triggered catastrophic thoughts: 

What if something’s been missed? 

What if it’s serious? 

Amar wasn’t just reacting to symptoms; he was trapped in a cycle of hypervigilance and fear.

The onset of these worries could be traced back to January 2024. While working out, he noticed a dry throat and chest discomfort, minor at first, but after Googling and self-checking, it spiraled into heart-related fears. Frequent travel and irregular meals worsened his digestion, further reinforcing his belief that something was deeply wrong.

Despite repeated reassurances from doctors, Amar couldn’t shake the dread. The tipping point came after a panic episode in June, when a doctor suggested, “This might be anxiety.”

That idea opened a door.

He came to therapy cautiously, not convinced, but curious. We didn’t rush to label his fear as “just anxiety.” Instead, we acknowledged the real distress he felt, while introducing the idea that maybe it wasn’t his body failing, but his mind overprotecting.

Together, we worked to interrupt the cycle that sustains Illness Anxiety Disorder:

Symptom → Fear → Reassurance → Brief relief → Symptom-checking → Renewed fear

Through cognitive reframing, grounding techniques, behavioral experiments, and psychoeducation, Amar slowly began to shift. The sensations didn’t vanish, but they no longer ruled his day. He started to separate his body’s messages from his mind’s catastrophic interpretations.

In one session, he shared,

“I still get scared sometimes… but now I know it’s a thought, not a fact.”

That was a turning point. Not the end of anxiety, but the beginning of insight.

Today, Amar still pays attention to his health, but not obsessively. He’s learned to live with uncertainty, to listen to his body without fearing it.

“Maybe I’ll never feel 100% sure,” he reflected in a closing session, “But that’s okay. I don’t need to live in fear to stay safe anymore.”

At Vibrant Aura, we offer a space where fears are heard without judgment, and healing unfolds with compassion and care,  just like it did for this client.

Also read about- https://thevibrantaura.in/index.php/2024/03/01/three-essential-areas-to-reset-and-calm-anxiety/

Googly, My Therapist with a Tail

There’s a particular kind of quiet that settles in after your child leaves for college. Not the peaceful kind. It’s more like, “Has the fridge always hummed this loudly?” kind of quiet. My daughter left last year, and even though I had time to adjust, she was home for a month recently… and now that she’s left again, the silence feels new all over again.

Thankfully, I’m not completely alone in it.

Googly, my beagle, has been with us for four years now. He didn’t come into our lives because the nest got emptier. He was already here, happily trotting around, demanding attention and snacks. But once she left, I realised how much space he really takes up, not just in the house, but in my everyday emotions too.

He’s the one who keeps my days moving. Especially during my usual 2 to 3 pm therapy slot. That time when I’m usually deep in session, holding space for someone else’s story. That’s exactly when Googly decides it’s time for a walk. Not later, not in ten minutes. Now. He doesn’t bark or whine at first, just appears quietly, gives me the look, and starts pacing like a little boss. If I ignore him, the sighs begin. Loud, exaggerated ones. It’s honestly very dramatic.

But that break he forces me to take? It does something. We step out, just around the society, nothing fancy. I say hi to neighbours, he sniffs familiar corners with serious commitment. And in that small window, I get to breathe. I come back lighter, more present, and sometimes smiling at how he tried to play with a leaf like it was a new friend.

When I find myself missing my daughter, which happens more often than I say out loud, it’s Googly who pulls me back. He senses it. He’ll sit closer, bring a toy, or just look at me like, “Hey, I’m still here.” He doesn’t say much, obviously, but it feels like he gets it.

Even my husband and I have started talking about Googly like he’s this third little creature shaping our world. From guessing why he’s whining again (he wants to play. Again.) to sharing how someone in the society complimented his beautiful eyes today, he’s become the center of so many unexpected conversations. And we honestly enjoy it. It’s silly and light and full of affection, and it fills the little quiet corners that sneak in when kids grow up and the house changes.

A dog doesn’t replace your child. They’re not meant to. But when the rhythm of your home shifts, and the room that once echoed with “Mamma” now just feels still, having a dog is a gentle reminder that love still lingers in the smallest, funniest, furriest forms.

Especially when that someone is named Googly Waghmare.🌼

How Much Control Do You Truly Have Over Your Life?

Have you ever thought about who’s really in control of your life, you, or everything happening around you?

The Rotter’s Locus of Control Survey is a simple way to find out. It gives you a glimpse into how you view the world, and what might be shaping your decisions without you even realizing it.

For example, here’s a sample question from the survey:

“When you get what you want, is it usually because you worked hard for it, or because you were lucky?”

Interesting to think about, right?

The best part is that your results are for your eyes only. Once you complete the survey (link below), your results will be sent straight to your email. No one else, not even us can see them.

Take a few minutes for yourself. You might be surprised by what you learn.

https://thevibrantaura.in/ninja-forms/117egc

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